We are all coming off the gift giving roller coaster ride of Christmas. Hopefully Santa was good to everyone.
Thank you notes- Should you write them? Are they outdated or do you think people have an obligation to take the time to acknowledge someone’s kind gesture of gift giving?
I am so grateful that my mom raised us to write hand written notes. Have I been perfect about writing notes, no, but I would say 90% of the time I remember. There are a couple of times in my life that I forgot and it was a significant purchase. For that I am still embarrassed. Years ago my mothers good friend Beth, bought me a place setting of china. This was over a decade ago and I remember is was very expensive. I asked my mother a few times for her friends address, but never made to the effort to keep asking and follow through. As a much more mature person I get how rude that was. If someone is going to take the time and money to buy you a nice gift, you should have the courtesy to say thank you properly. In my opinion a text or an email is ok to say thank you and acknowledge you received it, but you should also send the handwritten note as well.
One of our sweet former co-worker’s bought Christa and Brad a wedding gift. Christa actually did write and send a thank you note, but was mortified that she never received it. This happened to me a few weeks ago when our good friend Tracey wrote me a thank you note but weeks later it was sent back with the post office saying wrong address. She contacted me to apologize. I was not mad at all. In fact I didn’t expect a thank you card for a small birthday present at a fun gathering.
So, that reckons the next question. Where do you draw the line between when you must, should, or don’t have to send a thank you note?
Dave and I have found a few apps on our phone that allow you to send a hard copy thank you note that is digital. Hallmark has an app that allows you to upload photos, type in your message, and even digitally sign the card. The cost is $3.49 and you don’t have to worry about anything (they apply postage to the hard copy envelope). Do you think this is an acceptable form of a thank you note? Yes, you pay more, but if you only have a few to send, you are saving time and having to find stamps, etc.
From Emilypost.com: Good manners are about more than fulfilling bare-minimum social obligations. They are an opportunity for us to connect to the people in our lives in a meaninful way. In an increasingly informal digital world, continuing to pull out pen and paper is a way to distinguish yourself. The handwritten thank-you note speaks volumes simply as a medium and sends the message that you care enough to invest yourself personally in acknowledging another.
Christa has come up with a great way to make her kids write thank you cards. Brad’s Uncle Rodger and Aunt Debbie sent all of the kids I-tunes gift cards for Christmas. In order for the kids to use the cards, they had to write thank you notes. Guess how long it took them to write them? Yep, five minutes!
Our question for you- How do you feel about thank you notes?
Who’s ready to write some thank you notes!!!!