Let’s face it, we all love our children and want others to love them just as much. Especially their teachers because these are the people they will see almost as much as they see ourselves. I was in the trenches teaching high school for 14 years and Christa taught middle and high school for 12 years. We both taught in a wide variety of school settings (rural, urban, rich, poor, alternative, traditional). We have compiled a list of tips that will help make for a great year!
Have your kid at school on time. If your kid is tardy once in a blue moon, that is fine. However, the kids who are chronically tardy throw off the vibe of the class. As a teacher, I would get upset because I felt like it was rude and sent a message that you don’t care about my time. When your child is late I have to spend extra time catching him up on what he missed. When they are young, we think the parent is lazy.
Don’t let your kid miss a million days without a good reason. We get that there are valid reasons for kids to miss school. However, if you let your kid miss a ton of school just because they don’t feel like going, that is a problem. Once again, it puts more work on us getting your kid caught up.
Follow the chain of command. If you have a concern with something in the classroom, please come to us first. Please do not immediately go to our principal. Just like in your place of work, there is a chain of command. Most problems can be addressed and solved by talking to us.
“You are picking on my child”. This is something I heard throughout my teaching career on a few occasions. No, I’m not picking on your child. Your child does not follow rules, constantly disrupts the learning process, and feels that 100% of my attention needs to be devoted to them. If you get a call/email from a teacher, just know that YOUR CHILD is the problem. We don’t have time to call parents/email them. If we do, then it is because your child has been given a million chances, warnings, and we have gone through an entire discipline documentation process. Please be supportive and help us solve the problem.
Don’t bad mouth me on social media. Also, don’t bad mouth a teacher in front of your child. It empowers them to treat the teacher negatively.
Don’t overreact. Sometimes our parent instinct is to be protective, but if you overreact and come at us, we will be defensive. My sister April did this a few times and I told her, if you keep doing this, the teachers will not like your daughter. I had an instance with one of my kids that something happened. It bothered me, but I decided to wait and see if something happened again. Not confronting the teacher was a good move because she ended up being a wonderful teacher and loving my kid. I can’t help think how the year would have been different if I would have confronted the teacher. Of course I am talking about “small things”.
Be understanding…we will make mistakes…We are human.
Tell your kid to not correct a teacher…its embarrassing…Once again, we will make mistakes. Teach your kids the appropriate way to talk to a teacher about a mistake. Tell them to not confront the teacher in front of all the other kids, but instead privately at their desk. We will admit to our mistake and be appreciative that your child did not embarrass us.Random acts of kindness…we love it and appreciate it! A random thank you card or brownies or something small to say, “I appreciate you” is awesome!!!
We love when the students (especially older ones) write us thank you letters…these are cherished.
We love when you mention to our boss what a good job we are doing. A quick email in the middle of the school year takes a second and it makes our day!!!
Stay involved….check the online report cards…don’t wait until your kid has failed to care….Stay on top of your kid…It is easier for you to keep on top of your one child..we have 30 kids in a class…I had 6 classes X 30 kids a semester…180 kids….Its hard to micromanage 180 kids!
If you are a jerk to us, we try not to hold it against your kid, but it is hard….
In general we love your kids and love our jobs. We have good days and bad days, but overall we are blessed to be teaching your child. We understand that teaching is customer service. You and your child are the customers. We will bend over backwards to help your child be successful. We will make special arrangements for our small children to be watched so that we can wake up at 5 AM in order to be at school early because your child is coming in for tutoring. We give up our lunches so that we can give make up tests. We stay late to tutor your kid because we want them to succeed. There are a few teachers who do the minimum, but just know that 99% of teachers do the opposite! We give up time on the weekends with our own families working on lesson plans so that your child has fun, interactive lessons.
What should you do if the teacher and your kid get off to a bad start? Is it too late?No, it is never too late!!! If your child and teacher get off to a rocky start, tell your child that they should have a heart to heart with the teacher and express how they want to have a good year. Also, tell them the proof is in the pudding. If they clearly are making strides to behave in class and work hard, things will generally get better.
My question for you, what is something you would add to the list?