Investment refers to time, energy, or matter spent in the hope of future benefits actualized within a specified date or time frame.
What do YOU invest in?
Today’s blog was inspired by the New Year and today being Ash Wednesday (for those of us who are Catholic). I have been thinking a lot about investment in relation to New Years Resolutions and also to the Lenten Season (Catholics typically give up something to show homage to the amount Jesus sacrificed for us).When most people hear the word “investment” they think financial. One of my New Year’s resolutions was to waste less so that Dave and I could save more. I would LOVE to go buy a million new clothes, a new car, but know that investing in our future is a much better choice. I am still kicking myself for not investing in Netflix when it was low, along with several other stocks. I keep trying to convince Dave that we need to buy some Chipotle stock (I anticipate they will recover from their drama) because it is selling for $447 a share today, but had a high of $749 a share just a few short months ago. I also believe we should scoop up some of these ridiculously low oil and gas stocks because everyone knows they will eventually go up.
Another one of my New Year’s Resolutions was to invest in myself. This meant that I would finally hit it hard and try to make time to lose the weight that I still blamed on poor Finley (just joking). It is so easy to get wrapped up in life (work, kids, activities) that we lose ourselves. It is too easy to run through McDonalds or Burger King on the way home from a stressful day. I was frustrated that I let life get in the way and racked up the pounds that I wanted to lose. I am happy to report that I have lost over 20 pounds since September (watching what I eat and working out every day) and feel so much better. People have to make time for themselves.And finally, my last resolution is about investments in relationships. For this Lenton season I’m not giving up anything, but instead making a resolution to try and go to Mass every Sunday between now and Easter (and thereafter). I feel that I have not invested as much as I should in my relationship with God.
For the other relationships in my life, I have decided I will invest (and foster) relationships that I enjoy and are positive. This one is big because it involves a lot of self reflection. It also involves a lot of acceptance in the fact that some meaningful relationships I have had in the past with friends will fade. They will fade because I am not willing to make the extra effort, or they aren’t willing to make the extra effort. Saying goodbye to relationships doesn’t always mean there is a “good guy” and a “bad guy”. Instead, it just means people are on different paths and have different interests. Do not spend your time investing in relationships (partner, friend, family) that are one sided. Invest in relationships that have respect, boundaries, and love. One of my big resolutions has been to invest in relationships that are positive. It is so easy to think the sky is falling and people are out to get you, but in truth, that is not the case usually. Sometimes yes, but most of the time we stress over stuff that does not exist. For years every time I would think the worst, my sweet husband would remind me of Occam’s Razor (the idea that the simplest explanation is the best). If you are in a relationship that leaves you feeling bad, insecure, upset, etc…move on. Life is too short to spend your time and energy investing in relationships that aren’t fun. For the most part Christa and I are PollyAnna’s by nature. Towards the end of last year we started feeding off of each other with our complaints. We both decided that life was too short to be negative. We were going to gossip less, reach out more, and most importantly set boundaries so that if certain relationships are toxic, we will take a time out.In conclusion, investment is hard. Financial investment is hard because it would be so much easier to buy what you want now. Instead, you are investing in your future and not giving in to the day to day wants. Personal investment may even be harder. If you are like Christa and myself, we are not fans of working out. We want to eat and drink what we want and be skinny. Unfortunately that is not reality. We both are hitting it hard (eating better, 1-2 hours a day working out) and it is paying off. Finally, relationship investment is the most tricky. In a perfect world we would all get along and everything would be perfect. That is not always the case. Do not spend one more second of your life investing in a relationship that is toxic, one sided, or inevitably headed to nowhere. Do not invest in relationships that are not reciprocated.My question for you, what do YOU invest in?